“There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24). NLT
Have you ever considered someone a friend who later proved not to be? Maybe you experienced the loss of a loved one, but the person you thought was your friend was not there to comfort you. Perhaps when you were low, he or she was not there to lift you up. It could be that you even failed morally, and when you needed a friend the most, the person you thought was your friend walked away from you.
As long as things were good, you could count on the fact that your so-called friend would be by your side to help you celebrate. But, when hard times came, he or she was nowhere to be found. Such people are called “fair weather friends.” As long as the sun is shining in your life, you can count on them to be there. However, when skies over you turn gray, they turn and run.
Thus far, the darkest days I have ever experienced were those that followed the deaths of my parents who passed away within one month and three days of each other. I’d like to say that I was a super Christian who pushed all grief aside and kept right on going, but that was not the case. As an only child, I was devastated. The immediate family I had known and loved growing up was gone and grief overwhelmed me for years.
It is in times like the one I just described when you find out who your true friends are. They are the ones who pause to take the time to share in your sorrow, who go out of their way to check on you, who pray for you, who encourage you and who are available to listen to you when you need to express how you are feeling. They sympathize with you. In short, they are there for you!
It is shocking and hurtful when we discover that a person we thought loved and cared for us really doesn’t. But how grateful we are for those who journey with us during our times of struggle. We will never forget them or their acts of kindness.
Thankfully, there is one friend we can always depend on, and His name is Jesus. To His friends, Jesus gave the wonderful promise, “...I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). NKJV
We never have to wonder whether Jesus is a true friend or a fair weather friend. He has proven that He is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. He came to show us how to live abundantly (John 10:10). He died for us on the cross to pay our sin-debt to the Father (John 3:16). He rose from the grave, overcoming death, so that we might live eternally (1 Corinthians 15:55-57). He prayed for the Father to send the Holy Spirit to comfort us as we live our earthly lives (John 15:16). Finally, He has gone to prepare a place for us so that He can someday return to receive us unto Himself so that where He is, there we may be also (John 14:1-6).
You can’t do anything about fair weather friends except make sure that you are not one. Be like Jesus. When your friends need you, show them how much they mean to you. Be there for them!
And, although a person who you thought was your friend has forsaken you, remember that Jesus never will!
Read John 15:12-14; Job 6:14; Proverbs 27:17
Jerry Fulton's goal in life is to share the love of Jesus, so others might become followers of Christ.